31 March, 2010

What A Flapper

I normally really dislike the 'day before travelling'. We're due to go to my folks for Easter and today is the final day before we make the long journey up to their farm.

Normally, I get into a flap the day before, worrying about whether we've packed enough clothes for the baby and trying to make enough food to last the journey so we won't have to buy horrid service station sandwiches. I usually find myself doing endless rounds of laundry in the week leading up to Travel Day...telling myself that it is probably is a good idea to wash every single pair of socks and underwear, just in case 'something comes up' and we need to take it all.

Of, and of course we will want to come home to fresh, clean bedding and towels, so that'll all have to go in the the wash as well.

Yes indeed, I am not happy to leave my home until floors are washed, toilets are bleached and scrubbed and everything is dusted and shined. I think I'm being organised. Hubby thinks I'm nuts.

But today, I've decided to take Hubby's advice and chill out. He has gently reminded* me on many an occasion that taking it upon myself to spring clean the whole house simply because we're going away for a weekend is hardly a very Christian thing to do, since it only leaves me tired and irritable. Point taken. So today I have only been doing the necessary...with great results!

I've been a kitchen dweller this morning, baking some goodies to take for family and cooking up a soup for lunch with all the ingredients from the fridge that need to be gone by the time we get back. And it makes for quite a pleasant scene. I love a hour or two spent in the kitchen on a sunny day like today, glancing at the flowering lavender just outside the kitchen window.

It reminded me of a really lovely Scriptural quote from Job 37:14:

"Stand still and consider the wondrous works of God".

Life is so much better in slower motion...God says so!

So here's to another beautiful Spring day! Courtesy of Our Friend...



Hubby doesn't really do 'gentle' so this admonishment tends to lean towards something like; "Calm down, you're getting yourself in a flap...it's only a cake after all". Usually accompanied by a much wanted hug...he is the best.

30 March, 2010

Spring Into Action

March has been a busy month it seems, looking at the number of times I've posted on 'The Vineyard'.

And it's set to get busier still as Hubby, Martha and I career our way up to the north of England to spend the Easter season with family. I can't wait.

It's hard for me to believe that Easter is nearly here...Lent is nearly over...Spring really has arrived (just about!).

I'm delighted though because for me, this is the best time of year. Easter brings with it so much celebration, hope, renewal and inspiration. Flowers bloom, the trees become green...nature itself seems to celebrate the beauty of the Resurrection. Everything seems re-born.

It's also the perfect season to start afresh, make plans and approach life with new vigour and motivation.

Since I will be spending another summer here in our little patch of land, I have big plans for our currently unfinished garden...I'm envisioning rows of potted plants, a little vegetable patch, a finished fence (glances tentatively at Hubby...;-) and a pretty wrought iron gate. Once the warmer weather is here to stay I intend to start!

Life can't get any better than this. God is really, very good indeed.

28 March, 2010

What's The Alternative?


Hubby and I are somewhat obsessed with 'alternative lifestyles'. By that, I'm not referring to the weird stuff, y'know, polygamous marriage or making a living by growing and selling cannabis. Nothing like that.

What I mean is we're interested in people who eschew the so called usual way of doing things and seek alternatives that focus on producing a better quality of life. This almost invariably means cultivating a sense of contentment with the simpler things in life and making a concious choice not to be a slave to money and consumerism. We've tried to adopt this own culture within our family, feeling as we do that our daughter and future children will probably benefit, spiritually and emotionally.

I'm not saying we always manage this however. Me? I have an unhealthy penchant for 'pretty things', retro kitchenware, coffee table books, expensive food and the such. And my new financial status as a stay at home mother does not lend itself to this. I sometimes forget that I can no longer just go to London for the day at a moment's notice or have a lunchtime splurge in a quirky home-wares store. I'm on a steep learning curve.

Hubby on the other hand, struggles with reconciling his serious dislike for cynical capitalism and his desire to make enough money so that he need not work 12 plus hours a day in a stressful job. He's been there, done that and got the t-shirt.

What we both hope to achieve is a family life where family really does come before jobs and money. We want to find the balance between giving our children the necessary things in life and striving for more simply to fulfil our own selfish ambitions.

Nowhere is this emotional battleground more prolific than in our home...we're a family or 3 (4 if you count the cat) living in a small 2 bed mid-terrace. Hubby bought this house for himself about 6 years ago, as a young single man enjoying the freedoms of his then bachelor life. And for a single guy, this place is perfect. It's really close to the city centre, within walking distance of work and all the shops and night-life. There was ample room for everything he wanted and needed plus enough space for guests to stay over in the spare bedroom. He bought it as an empty shell of a house and slowly worked on it, eventually producing a perfect bachelor pad. Think minimalist furniture, lots of chrome and dark wood. He held parties here, got to know his neighbours and spent many happy Saturday evenings holed up on the couch with a bottle of red listening to Bob Harris on Radio 2.

I'm proud of Hubby for many reasons, but working flat out and saving every last penny so that he could buy his own home and build a nest egg for his future is something really special I think. And as a result, this house is, rightly, very important to him.

Me, on the other hand, well I came into a much loved and completely 'finished' house that had a very specific look and lay-out. Which is a little unfortunate really, since my own collection of objects leans rather dramatically towards the quirky and colourful. I love bright tea-pots and floral cake tins...tea-towels are much better when shaded in candy colours and nothing in this world can beat a big vase of fresh flowers.

Because of this clash of tastes, we have both on many occasions had to make compromises and sacrifice things we love to keep the place looking relatively neat and orderly.

But no matter how much stuff we get rid of, this place is a real squeeze for 2 adults, 1 baby and a feline friend. Or at least it feels that way to me at times...

We have been discussing moving since last year. And as the months tick by, I am getting more and more antsy to do it. Patience is not my strong point. Hubby though, ever cool, calm and collected is adamant that we will wait until conditions are just right. No hasty decisions, NO risky business. He is of course, completely right and at the last count, we might be in a new house by the end of the summer...subject to conditions!

So I am looking at a good few more months in our little home...and it is here that I really need reminding about what it is I am really striving for in life. This is where my interest and my high regard for those maverick, 'alternative lifestyle' folks comes in very handy.

I know, deep down, that bigger houses and pretty things don't actually make people happier. They just make life more convenient sometimes. Life is what you make it and a positive attitude is all that is needed to foster a spirit of contentment and cheerfulness. Galatians 5:22 in the NT speaks so beautifully about the fruits of the Holy Spirit...and of course joy and peace are amongst them. Contentment isn't just a way of life. It is God's will for our lives.

Luckily for me, blog-land is absolutely bursting with folks who have mastered the art of appreciation and live really full, happy, productive, Spirit-filled lives in situations that would turn alot of people into miserable, hard-done-bys. In fact, some of these folks seek out living conditions that challenge them to find contentment and fulfilment in the simple things.

And in my view, this family have absolutely cracked it. They are a Christian family of 4, who having sold their comfortable 3 bedroom home, rented a tiny 1 bed flat before deciding to radically down-size and travel around for a year in an RV. Did I mention that they just had their second baby?

Contentment absolutely abounds in the writings of this woman! Her life is a huge inspiration to me to quit whinging, stop looking ahead to 'the next step' and start appreciating how immensely lucky I am to have a comfortable, warm, safe house in which to raise my daughter.

I too, want to be filled with the fruits of the Spirit.

http://walkslowlylivewildly.com/

'But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control'. Galatians 5:22

25 March, 2010

Keeping The Peace

My daughter is now nearly 7 months old and I am already looking forward to having our next baby (but no...it hasn't happened yet!).

Before Martha was born, even while I was pregnant in fact, I found it hard to imagine life with a baby. I had never so much as held a newborn, let alone cared for one. Being with a baby (and not just any baby, but my baby) for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week seemed really quite incredible.

Now that I have grown accustomed to my new life as a mother, I'm excited about the prospect of our little girl becoming a big sister.

I'm not naive though. I'm aware that more children equals more work. And since Martha is...how shall I say...high maintenance, I've probably got my work cut out for me.

Life with a baby is never easy and indeed I have found in some ways that I have to work harder the older Martha gets. She is no longer content just to sit in her baby sling while I do some work or send an email or go for a walk. Now that she's "all grown up" she has opinions about what she wants to see and do and she's not afraid to express them! So instead of having a nap while I rustle up some biscuits in the kitchen or do the hoovering, Martha now makes attempts to get involved, by reaching out to put her hand in the mixing bowl or to grab a picture frame off the mantelpiece. Putting her down in her chair with her toys doesn't help much either. They keep her entertained for about 5 minutes or so, until she tires of them and wants something new. Children are most definitely hedonistic creatures!

So we have had to adapt to a new routine in the last few weeks. Martha now spends a lot of time strapped to my hip in her baby sling, but instead of just following Mummy around all day, she now listens to Mummy singing songs and explaining what activities we're engaged in. At various points during the day, the sling comes off and out come the baby books for a little story time. We've come a long way since those colicky first three months...

And it has occured to me that this is the real "trick" to motherhood...adapting. For if anything is certain (apart from death and taxes) it's that children will change as they grow. What suited one week will inevitably not suit the next. Just when you think you've cracked it, your little bundle of joy changes the goal posts and you find you're playing an entirely different game.

So I've made a promise to myself to just roll with the punches. Take each day as it comes. Getting hung up about a burned cake that couldn't be rescued from the oven in time due to a screaming baby is far more hassle than it is worth.

St. Paul's letter to Titus in the NT is a great encouragement for women who wish to dedicate their talents and lives to motherhood and family life...Titus 2 could even be regarded as the home-makers manual. We all know the admonishments...women are to love their husbands, love their children and be home-makers. But isn't it curious that in amongst what seems like quite a list of "chores", no where does it mention that we have to have perfect houses, or bake perfect cakes or remember to dust that spot on the bookshelf that always gets forgotten? It seems no provision is made for over-achievement...or any practical achievement for that matter. And it makes perfect sense really. For example, I would much rather eat a microwave meal that took 5 minutes to 'cook' with a smiling, happy, cheerful person sitting opposite me, than eat a 5 course, lavish, gourmet meal with a stony-faced, silent 'companion' . What matters to God and to our families is not how many jobs we accomplish on a given day, what matters is our manner and our attitude. A smiling face, a peaceful home and a content family is a far greater end of day result than a spotless house and a tense atmosphere.

This Scriptural 'loophole' is the assurance women today often need to hear. It tells us that it's ok to have more than 2.4 children. We won't need to hire a cleaner or a nanny if we have 6 kids. We won't need to have completed a course in home organisation and baby care if we choose not to space our children.

And it's my belief that where God leads, men usually follow(I'd like to emphasise the usually!). Most men might have some basic expectations of how they want their home to be...they might some stipulations about the meals they eat or how they like their laundry done. But what I'm willing to bet my last penny on is that the vast, vast majority of men would rather be greeted at the door by a smiling happy woman and a slightly messy house than by a spotlessly clean and ordered home and a woman who is so tired and frazzled that she can barely raise a smile, let alone a hug and a kiss.

The myth of the perfect housewife is just that. A myth. It's a popular myth granted...all over the media, we are bombarded with images of women who seem to do it all. They look amazing, they have perfect relationships, their homes are immaculate, their children well behaved. But I stand convinced of the deceit propagated by these portrayals.

True home-making has little to do with baking and sweeping and the such like. It is a state of mind. It is an attitude. It is the motivation to create a place of sanctuary for those we love. It is the intention to make a peaceful haven from the world, where peace and harmony rule.

And in that place, it doesn't matter where you have 1 baby or 14. All that matters is that you aim every day to keep the peace that God offers you.

And to top it all off...He'll even help you to do it.


"Seek peace, and pursue it".
Proverbs 34:14

23 March, 2010

'And The Days Are Not Full Enough...'


"And the days are not full enough

And the nights are not full enough
And life slips by like a field mouse
Never shaking the grass".

The above poem by Ezra Pound seems to sum up the year so far...Martha is growing too fast for me to keep up, Hubby has begun a new phase in his work life. Friends are getting married, having babies...some friends have passed away.

Life really does slip by. You make plans, and then you find God has His own plans in store for you.

We religious types are a lucky bunch though. God is constant and faithful, come rain or shine, through life and through death. His promise to us stands true, no matter what He has planned for us.

"Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid". John 14:27

Today, the sun is shining, the winter is over and a new day has begun. May it bring peace to all who are troubled and all who have lost hope.

22 March, 2010

For A Friend...


"Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality".

Emily Dickinson.

18 March, 2010

Sugar Rush

Since we have relatives arriving tomorrow, I've had a bit of a manic week preparing for this weekend. Baking every day, lots of extra cleaning...it's been a bit tiring to say the least. In my over-ambition, I had even planned to take my cat Ginger to the vets for a de-flea and grooming session, until Hubby pointed out that this just might be a bit O.T.T. (In my defence, he is long-haired and very fond of muddy puddles...the cat that is, not Hubby!)

Still, the last cake is now in the oven and the place is looking ready for guests...which means tomorrow we can finally break out all the sugary treats hidden away in my cake tins!

Including these...an old favourite of mine that have come in really handy since I'm on a no chocolate diet for Lent. I need my sugar fix from time to time and these are just the ticket!

Banana Flapjack Recipe

80g brown sugar
100g butter
275g rolled oats
4 tbsp golden syrup
1 banana, very ripe

1. Over a low heat, melt the butter in a large saucepan.
2. Add the sugar and the golden syrup and stir well.
3. Mix in the oats and stir thoroughly.
4. Mash the banana and add, stirring well until the banana covers all of the mixture.
5. Bake in a pre-heated oven at 220c for about 10 minutes or until the mixture starts to turn golden brown.

15 March, 2010

Of Babies and Baking

Babies and baking don't mix well. And it seems that my baby in particular and baking really don't mix well.

Hubby and I are blessed with what is gently referred to as a 'high-need' baby. She is inquisitive, easily upset, very vocal and unwilling to sit or lie still for longer than a few minutes. She wants to do, see, hear and touch everything. Especially anything that I am doing, watching, listening to or holding. So when she's not being carried in her baby sling, she is dangling from my right hip as I attempt to do all kinds of household jobs one-handed. It makes for many a comical moment!

So it goes without saying that I don't get as much time to bake as I'd like. At the moment I'm lucky if I manage a baking session twice a week. So it is extra, extra nice when a half-hour opportunity presents itself and I'm able to try my hand at something new.

I love to bake bread, but with all the kneading, rising and kneading again, it's really not baby-friendly. So today I tried out a no yeast, almost no kneading recipe that really worked out well...it's amazing how much satisfaction can be gained from virtually zero effort!

This is one recipe I'll definitely be teaching my little girl when she's big enough to stand on a chair and hold a wooden spoon...

Martha's No Yeast Bread Recipe:

600g plain flour
15 fl oz water
1 tbsp sugar
1/2 tbsp baking powder
1/2 tbsp bicarbonate of soda

1. Mix dry ingredients together first in a large mixing bowl and then add the water.
2. Mix well until a dough is formed.
3. When ready, transfer the dough to a well-floured surface and knead for 2 -3 minutes, or until the dough is pliant and non-sticky. Add more flour if needed.
4. Shape into a round, measuring about 1 1/2 inches deep.
5. Bake in a pre-heated oven at 200C/400F for about 40 minutes.

11 March, 2010

Smile!

I seem to have been posting about some gloomy subjects of late! Indeed, I've been reading and thinking a lot about 'heavy' issues these past few weeks, so today I've been trying to focus on the lighter, more cheerful side of life.

And so...

My Top Ten Reasons To Smile Today are:

1. Martha can sit up almost un-aided! This is so useful when I'm doing the laundry as she can sit on the clean clothes in the laundry basket and watch!
2. I got a lovely email from a friend who recently had a baby inviting me to come visit her and stay for a few days.
3. It's Thursday night which means American Idol is on. Hurrah! My money is on Crystal or Alex to win...
4. We're now half-way through Lent; chocolate here I come!
5. Hubby is so excited about a recent development with work that he has been singing "Lord Of The Dance" almost on repeat since he came home. He's the best!
6. Tomorrow is Friday, time for the weekly trip to the library for a good browse and a cuppa.
7. Hubby recounted the funniest story this morning...I would re-tell, but I think one needs to hear it in a Brummie accent to find it really hilarious. But never mind...it's kept me laughing all day. :-)
8. The sun finally came out today, for the first time in days. The whole house has been just bathed in light...so lovely.
9. Next weekend we have relatives visiting, which is the perfect excuse to bake cakes and biscuits and enjoy lots of nattering over a pot of tea. I can't wait!
10. Its not a Wednesday or a Friday which means we can have meat for dinner! Chicken curry is coming up!

Wishing everyone a lovely, happy, smiley evening!

09 March, 2010

Deluded: An Individual Response To Richard Dawkins

'The God Delusion'; an already infamous book that is as loved as it is hated, as revered as it is scorned.

I have just finished reading it. I know, it makes very odd reading material for a Catholic during Lent. But I am not afraid of having my faith challenged and questioned and I am certainly not afraid of Richard Dawkins, who has become a sort of religious bogey man in recent years. Last year I watched the documentary on which this book was based, "The Root of All Evil?" and found that it made little impression on me. Being an extension of this work, I wanted to read the book. Unluckily for Dawkins the book has had about the same effect as the film. That is, virtually none.

It would naturally be entirely fruitless for me to attempt any kind of meaningful defence for the existence of God from a scientific standing. Scientifically Dawkins can out-do the best of them, I wouldn't even know where to begin.

But crucially, after reading The God Delusion, it strikes me that Dawkins doesn't actually care that much whether people believe in God or not. At least, not people like you or I, the average weekly church-goer who gets on with his or her life in relative peace with the rest of society. He outlines in the preface that the book is meant to 'convert', he hopes religious people reading it will come to reject their faith and embrace his upbeat, cheerful "isn't the earth just beautiful" brand of fundamental atheism. But he must be painfully aware that the private thoughts and beliefs of individuals he has never met have nothing to do with him, nor do they affect his life. No, I do not accept that this book is aiming to persuade people to an atheistic mindset, despite what he claims. It's primary motivation in my view is to demonstrate that religious belief is harmful to society and the world at large and that religious belief should have no place in government, education or any institutional operation one could name. His purpose in writing is to eradicate conspicuous religious behaviour, the sort that permits people to baptize their children, or educate them in a faith school. Since it is impossible to believe that he cares a fig for what individuals actually think, feel or do in private (in fact he is at pains to point out that he doesn't care what people get up to in private, although his context for saying as much was a defence for the right of all people to "enjoy their sex life..provided they harm no one") , we can only conclude that what he is actually advocating is the demotion of religion to the status of an underground movement; marginalised and placed on the mere fringes of society. His dominant argument therefore is that any religion harms not just it's believers but other communities and most especially children. Events like that of 9/11 naturally lend themselves extremely well to this argument and the abuse scandals in the Catholic church are of course noted, almost with glee (and certainly with more than a hint of crass humour). He does however 'kindly' point out that it is "unfair to single out the Catholics" since every religion is guilty of indoctrination, intimidation and abuse of it's young in his opinion.

He even goes so far as to say that it is abusive to refer to a child according to the religious persuasion of their parents...there is, he writes, no such thing as a "Christian child" or a "Muslim child" or a "Catholic child", just as there is no such thing as a "Conservative child" or a "Republican child". By that reckoning, he is himself a victim of an abusive childhood, given that he was raised an Anglican.

Indeed, in Dawkin's world there can be no redeeming feature of religious life. Even poor Mother Teresa of Calcutta is branded "hypocritical and sanctimonious" and unworthy of her Nobel Peace Prize after she publicly stated during her acceptance speech that the biggest threat to peace was abortion.* You know of Mother Teresa of course, the same woman who declared that she would adopt, love and look after any and all unwanted children, no matter their race, religion or background. Yes indeed, what a hypocrite...

It would of course be foolhardy for any religious person to attempt to claim that the actions of religious men and women are beyond the pale. There is no counter-argument in the face of the devastation caused by suicide bombings, sexual abuse and centuries of religious wars.

But what Dawkins is calling for, namely the removal of religion from the public life of society is in itself an abuse of the basic human rights of individuals and communities. That no religion has a right to impose it's beliefs and ideals on another sector or community goes without saying. Or at least it should go without saying. But the "solution" as proposed by Dawkins and those of a similarly militant, fundamentalist atheistic persuasion equally strips people of a fundamental right.

Decades of religious oppression in Soviet Russia demonstrate the truth of this, in ugly fashion. Religion was stricken from the history books, churches were destroyed, children were indoctrinated in schools and clergy and lay people alike were murdered, tortured and imprisoned for practising their beliefs. But crucially, despite years of crushing, violent oppression, religious belief was not and could not be eradicated in Russian society. Children were secretly baptized, families secretly prayed together, priests still secretly celebrated Masses for the faithful. And in the aftermath of the collapse of the USSR, religious life resumed publicly with increased zeal and vigour.

Religion, or faith, has been inherent in almost every culture and every society since time immemorial. And not, as Dawkins would have us believe, because man is unable to understand the true nature of the world around him. Science has opened up space and shrunk the earth...we can travel to all corners of the globe and we have left no stone unturned. We have literally been to the moon and back. And after it all, we still believe.

Faith can not be eradicated. Scientific advancement can not extinguish it. Man can not crush it.

Dawkins mission of conversion and universal atheism is doomed to be reconciled to the intellectual scrap heap. Where human life abounds, faith in the divine abounds.

So he's welcome to call me deluded if he wants to. I'll even defend his right to do so. But wishing for a world without faith and trying to make it happen? That's really nuts.



*Dawkins pointedly fails to provide the entire quotation from that speech, which is: "And this (abortion) is what is the greatest destroyer of peace today. Because if a mother can kill her own child - what is left for me to kill you and you kill me - there is nothing between".

PS - Thanks for reminding me about "The Whisperers" Dad!

06 March, 2010

Thoughts On Home-schooling

Home-schooling. I never anticipated that I would ever so much as consider it, let alone harbour a desire to practice it.

But since my daughter was born, just 6 months ago, I have become more and more interested in the ways of the home-schooler and how I might approach this enormous task.

Obviously, it goes without saying that I alone am not making any decision regarding my daughter's education and ultimately the final say will be had by her Daddy.

But Hubby has given me the go ahead to look into it, to research and find out how it is practised in the UK. And so I have, with relish.

A trip to the library has provided me with ample reading material as a starting point and I am already racing through my "beginners" book 'Learning Without School', by Ross Mountney.

The decision to home-school before your child has begun school is presented as a fairly easy one to make. Children who are pulled out of school to be home-schooled are almost always removed due to severe on-going problems the child is experiencing that the school has failed to address. Not so with the pre-schooler. The decision to home-school your pre-school child is almost always a philosophical, moral one.

And this is the very heart of the matter for our family. We are very aware that by choosing never to send our daughter to school, to never even try that "normal" route, we could potentially be subjecting her to a childhood that is set-apart and different. Perhaps painfully so. All for the sake of our philosophies.

And yet, my experiences of state education in this country leave me wishing that I could shelter her from those aspects of school life that I know to be demoralising, harmful, and sometimes even dangerous. This is not the ranting of a religious fanatic who cannot function in ordinary society. These are the concerns of a very normal family who are wondering how they can carve out a happy childhood for their daughter (and hopefully future children) without exposing her to the usual name calling and playground politics of primary education and the peer pressure, sex, drugs and drink of the teen years.

I am very aware that a lot, in fact, most people would venture to say that their school days were relatively happy. Indeed I am one of them. I thoroughly enjoyed most of my schooling and I was lucky enough to make friends easily and do fairly well academically.

But that can't detract from the basic problems that the school system presents in my thoughts. Number one being that parents can't really know exactly what their child is being taught behind closed doors, crucially both by their teachers and their fellow pupils. Again, I have no fear of my daughter making friends with and socialising with children whose family background differs from her own. What I don't want is her to become victim to the far more subtle pressure exerted by an over-emphasis on testing and narrow-minded academia which convinces children that they are worth only what an examiner is willing to grade them. Number two, children who are unhappy at school are often reluctant to discuss their problems with their parents out of a mistaken belief that their parents will be unable to help. Number three leads on from number two, unhappy children who believe they have no outlet for their thoughts and feelings often turn to harmful or negative behaviours that worsen the original issue and make recovery a much more drawn out experience.

Home schooling would virtually resolve all of these issues before they had a chance to even arise. Of course I know it would not be easy. The time and commitment one has to make is enormous. And when more children come along (if it please Him) the time and energy needed only increases.

So, for the time being, I'll keep researching and reading and crucially, praying for the right answer to come.

If anyone reading has any thoughts or experiences on home-schooling either here in the UK or in the US that they would be happy to share, I would thoroughly enjoying reading them. Many thanks in advance!

05 March, 2010

The Bible: Rewritten

I'm happy to admit that I like to watch TV on occasion. I'm very aware that it is de rigeur at the moment to publicly declare oneself a TV-a-phobe, but I don't. I love watching 'American Idol' and I'll definitely be tuning in to see what happens at this year's Oscars.

I also love a good, engaging documentary. So naturally, my curiosity was aroused when I happened upon a show titled "The Bible: A History". The episode I watched centred around the writings of St. Paul and the impact he had and does have on our society today.

It started out well. The presenter, a historian whose name escapes me right now, was engaging and interesting. He provided a lot of interesting tidbits about St. Paul and much of the film was shot in locations that Paul lived and worked in.

So far so good.

The programme was also keen to address the content of Paul's letters and to place his teachings in our modern setting and see how they could best be applied.

Now, anyone who has read the letters of Paul in full will be all too aware of his admonishments concerning the role of women, particularly in the church and in the home. In light of the past 40 years, reading them makes for an uncomfortable experience for a lot of people. And I simply couldn't wait to hear what our learned narrator had to say on the subject!

I was, perhaps predictably, disappointed. As the presenter focused on the first letter of St. Paul to Timothy (or 'The First Epistle of St. Paul The Apostle'...try saying that three times quickly after a glass of wine!), he highlighted this particular passage:

"But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence" - 1 Timothy 2:12.

Even to me, a person of little in depth knowledge of the Bible, the teaching here is clear and unambiguous. Women are not permitted to be priests, or pastors or in any position of spiritual authority. Nor are men to be subject to women in the home. Men are leaders in spiritual and family matters. Simple enough concept.

Naturally, the documentary makers had other ideas. We were introduced to another historian who very kindly explained that "scholars" (she wouldn't name names) today believe that not all of the letters that appear in the NT under Paul's name were actually written by Paul. There are, she enlightened us, 7 definite Pauline letters (again...she wouldn't name them) but the authorship of the rest is in dispute. The particular passage in question, in the letter to Timothy she explained, probably had not been written by St. Paul, but by some later Christians who felt uncomfortable with Paul's 'radical' theology and in particular, his views concerning the "oneness" of all people in Christ:

"There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus." Galatians 3:28

And so, our programme concluded, we can dismiss these uncomfortable, archaic teachings and embrace a new radical theology, the true theology of Paul and all live as one, equal and indifferent in Christ. Jew and Gentile, man and woman, straight and gay. Bam! End of programme. Roll credits.

Sigh...

Whilst I in no way dispute what Paul wrote to the Galatians, I also do not dispute the teachings that appear in Timothy, Ephesians, Corinthians and more.

It is true, there are numerous passages in the Old Testament and New and particularly in the writings of Paul that, in the wrong light, can be seen to diminish the role of women and perhaps even oppress and degrade women. We are to keep silent in the churches, we must submit to our husbands, in everything. We are expected to be keepers at home, to raise our children ourselves and to live a way of life that is in direct contradiction to most of what we are taught in schools, higher education and by the media and government.

On the face of it, these admonishments can appear to marginalise us. But viewed in the correct context, these teachings simply outline for women our God ordained spheres of authority and control. We are to be our children's primary carers. What an enormous responsibility! Their day to day education and moral training is our job. We need not concern ourselves with leading the family unit, or making decisions that could potentially impact ourselves and our families for years, maybe decades to come. We are freed from the burden of sole financial responsibility and instead, we our made the boss of our own workplace - the home.

We could consider that by submitting to our husbands we are taking second place or we could consider that by choosing to submit to our husbands we are enabling them to fulfil their God ordained role as leader and head. Without our co-operation, their role is made almost impossible.

Women in a position of submission hold far more power than they even know! And it is this key 'contradiction' that they makers of this documentary failed to recognise. Paul wasn't a chauvinist or a misogynist. Women are not instructed to be submissive and "in silence" because we are lesser beings. Our historian friend is so right when he says that in Christ, we are all equal, men and women are of the same value. But crucially our roles, our specialisms are different. And we can best serve our families, our churches and ultimately God by respecting these natural differences and throwing ourselves 100% into the work given to us.

It occurs to me that if we can trust in our faith that a man named Jesus who lived 2000 years ago came to earth from heaven, was crucified and died for our sins and three days later was resurrected from the dead then surely it's not that much of a stretch to believe that the writings of his faithful servant and ardent follower St. Paul just might have something worthwhile to teach to today's world, even if some learned "scholars" dispute their authenticity.

Perhaps our documentary film-makers should have more accurately titled their programme, "The Bible: Rewritten".

After all, that's what they tried to do.

03 March, 2010

English Senorita!


I have a real passion for cooking. I'm no Martha Stewart or Delia Smith, but what I lack in skill, I try to make up for with enthusiasm. I am loath to be a slave to cook books and other people's way of doing things, so where I can, I make up my own recipes from scratch.

As a result, dinner time in our house is often an eccentric experience, but fun and usually tasty all the same.

Last night was fajita night. I don't make my own tortillas (yet!) but I have come up with a little recipe for fajita marinade which turned out really well!




Chicken Fajita Recipe
: Serves 2-3

200g chicken, diced
2 bell peppers, cut into strips
1 onion, finely chopped

Marinade Ingredients:
2 garlic cloves, crushed
2 tspbs paprika
1 tspb cumin
1/2 tspb cayenne pepper
1 tspb clear set honey
1 tspb brown sugar
2 tsbps olive oil
juice of 1 lemon

1. In a large frying pan, heat the chicken, onion and peppers in a little olive oil.
2. When chicken is nearly cooked, add the marinade ingredients and stir until all the chicken and peppers are evenly coated.
3. Add a little hot water to keep the chicken moist and then cover and leave to cook on a low heat for about 15 minutes.
4. Once the chicken is thoroughly cooked, it is ready to be served!

Best served with corn or flour tortillas, spicy salsa and soured cream.